On Modesty

I had a conversation via Facebook with one of my nieces the other day.  We did not agree on the topic.  She contended that it was her right to dress in shorts and tank tops and not expect to be harassed by the male population. She also contended that men should just be better behaved.

I totally disagree.  Women, especially younger women,  tend to have this entitlement ideology that says “I can do anything I want and the world just has to approve/tolerate/and deal with it.”  Really?!?  Says who?  Now I’m not advocating the wearing of burqas, but let’s turn the tables for a minute, shall we?

Most women love shoes.  Heels, flats, sandals, boots, flip-flops – doesn’t matter, they’re shoes.  Ok, I know there are one or two of you out there that couldn’t care less, but you are the minority so sit back and listen.  Now, let’s say that it became the “fashionable” thing for men to drape themselves with pairs of really cute shoes.  I can guarantee  that women everywhere would look, point, discuss amongst themselves and the really brave would even approach a man draped in a particularly cute pair of shoes.  Now, what if those men who were draped in these cute shoes that were absolutely irresistable to women, would come up all offended that women were looking and pointing and talking amongst themselves and OMGoodness had the audacity to approach them?  Who’s fault is it now?  You don’t want to be pointed at, talked about or approached?  Don’t drape yourself in totally cute shoes that women have a hard time resisting. Fashion be damned!

Yes, I know that’s a pretty silly illustration, but do you see the point?  Women think they  have the right to wear things that incite men and do it with impunity.  No!  You don’t!

Men are very visual creatures.  God made them that way.  There is NOTHING inherently wrong with that.  But we want to beat men up for being that way.  Why?

Now, I’ll flip the coin again.  SHOULD men  be better “behaved”?  Sure.  Of course.  But guess what sweetheart?  You don’t get to live in a perfect world and neither do I.  If you choose to flaunt your skin/your shape/your body parts around men who are not your husband or brothers, then you should be prepared to deal with the fallout from that.  Otherwise, go change your clothes and cover up.

And on one last note, if you attend church…any church, anywhere…..cover up.  It’s offensive to be in God’s house dressed immodestly.  What kind of honor is that showing the One who Created You?

And now…..let the hating begin!  LOL.  Bring it on ladies.


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12 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Pat
    Apr 29, 2014 @ 15:02:08

    I totally, 100%, agree. Having said that at age 67, let me also say I can still remember what it was like to be 17. Would I have agreed then; no? But looking back now I can truly say; find yourself a “best friend” and marry him. If you mistake sex or a sensual relationship for love, you will end up like me; having a lot to regret for the rest of your life. Tell your niece the hardest thing in the world to do, is to live with yourself with a great deal of regret. Had it not been for the wonderful gift Jesus gave, His life for mine, on the cross; I would never make it to heaven. God Bless and never give up saying and doing what is right.


    • heavensdaughter
      Apr 29, 2014 @ 18:53:42

      Thank you Pat. You are so right. And hey, if I don’t get a chance to meet you in person on this side of heaven, I’ll look you up on the other. To God be the Glory!


  2. Saundra Loman
    Apr 29, 2014 @ 19:01:50

    BRAVO!!!! I’m a woman & I’m tired of ‘having’ to view body parts that seem to
    be adveretisment. And for sure it’s grossly disrepectful & rude to dress that
    way in public (beaches & athletic events exempted.
    Sandy Loman


  3. kathyabc
    Apr 29, 2014 @ 22:55:41

    As a school superintendent, this has been a constant battle: not just immodest dress, but the attitude of entitlement. Once, when I was new to a school, I cracked down on the dress code, and a 9th grade boy stopped me in the school building hall to thank me. He said it was a lot easier to pay attention in Algebra class now!!
    Keep up the good work!


  4. Lorri
    May 12, 2014 @ 19:49:24

    No hating here! I agree totally! My daughters are not allowed to wear tank top, spaghetti straps, or tube tops. As for their lower half, dresses and shorts must come to their knees or longer. No prancing around in bathing suits either. It is showing respect for themselves and for everyone around them.
    Thanks you!
    ~Found you through the Barn Hop 😀


    • heavensdaughter
      May 12, 2014 @ 20:52:00

      Bless you! It is definitely showing respect not just for themselves but for others as well. Thanks for stopping by!


  5. CJ
    May 14, 2014 @ 03:06:53

    I agree with you!! My husband says that a woman that dresses that way brings insult to her male couterpart. Her shape, beauty should be for him and him alone – not the whole world. Beside a little imagination is better than the whole picture!


  6. CJ
    May 14, 2014 @ 03:10:57

    I agree with you 100%. My husband says that a woman who dresses immodestly to impress the world shows a lack of respect for her male couterpart. Besides a little imagination is better than the whole picture. Not burkas by any means but modesty!


  7. CJ
    May 14, 2014 @ 03:11:48

    sorry for the double coment – computer glitch. CJ


  8. englishgarden2003
    May 16, 2014 @ 02:26:06

    I agree!! I’m a young preschool teacher in an upscale neighborhood and some of these kids’ Moms dress SO inappropriately!! I dress in mostly high necked shirts and jeans or capris even when it’s hot, just to show the girls that you CAN dress both cute AND modest!! These girls need fashion role models! Also, my husband says that leaving a little something to the imagination is better than bending over and showing off your birth canal!!! =) No hating here!!


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